An Open Letter to White Men in America

An Open Letter to White Men in America

'I invite the white men of America with me on this journey of discovery.'

By Rev. Dr. John C. Dorhauer | Originally Published at Huffington Post. July 24, 2015 12:03 PM EDT Updated: July 24, 2015 5:59 PM EDT
Dear White Men,

You are persons of privilege.

You didn’t earn it. More than likely aren’t yet prepared to either admit to it or lose it. This letter, written by one of you, is offered to invite you on a journey of insight, honesty, hard truth and just living.

Privilege can be hard to see, mostly because of what doesn’t happen to us when we have it.

One of the four reasons James Cone offers in his landmark essay “Theology’s Great Sin: Silence in the Face of White Supremacy” for why men of privilege remain silent in the face of so much racial injustice is: “They don’t have to speak.”

We aren’t getting arrested at four times our population rate.

We aren’t being followed when walking through a department store wearing a sweat shirt with a hood.

Real estate agencies didn’t write codes, rules and laws that kept us out of the high rent districts and middle class neighborhoods.

Property values don’t go down when more than 10 percent of our neighborhood is saturated with people of our race.

Our children aren’t sitting in classrooms with teachers who are likely not to have even a minor degree in the courses they are teaching.

Young white men are not being gunned down by black police officers in epidemic numbers.

Our churches aren’t being burned to the ground, nor or our church members in danger of being gunned down in prayer meetings.

We are not saying to ourselves as part of a white man’s code of conduct that when a police car drives by us without pulling us over even though we are exceeding the speed limit something like: “Well, once again I didn’t get pulled over because I’m white.”

We are not saying to ourselves when our child didn’t get her college application rejected with a questionable GPA something like: “Well, thank God she’s white and that her mother graduated from that school 25 years ago.”

We are not saying to ourselves when the prosecutor reduces our son’s charges from aggravated assault to loitering and sets him free with a small fine and time served: “Wow, that white prosecutor made sure my white son got a break that the black man who got convicted of that crime last week didn’t get.”

The journey to seeing and understanding the pernicious consequences of privilege includes the harder work of seeing what isn’t there to be seen.

I have started practicing this as a discipline.

When I walk into a convenience store to get a receipt for my gas and the young woman at the counter greets me with a smile and a kind word, I tell myself “She felt comfortable doing that because I’m white.”

When I see a highway patrolman pass me by while I’m exceeding the speed limit or, as actually happened two weeks ago, I get pulled over for that and let off without a ticket, I say to myself: “That happened because I’m white.”

When I drive through the many border checkpoints we have set up here in the Southwest along the Mexican border, and as I roll down my window and make my stop at the guard gate, and as the border patrol agent simply glances at my face before waging me on with a perfunctory “have a good day,” I say to myself: “That is the result of my being white.”

I don’t know in the end if any of those were in fact true statements. That isn’t the point of this exercise. The point is to create a consciousness from which I can no longer let myself escape.

I want to be clear about something. This solves nothing. I can notice, and still be happy and content with the privilege I am afforded.

I want to be clear about something else. Whatever solutions are going to come that we ourselves will offer the agency of our privilege for aren’t coming without this basic awareness.

When I taught White Privilege studies to a class of Masters of Divinity students at Eden Theological Seminary, the assignment I left the students with every day was this: “Tell me what you see.” There is a passage in my sacred texts that reads: “Let those who have eyes to see, see.” There is so much more to be seen than what white men will let there eyes take notice of.

I invite the white men of America with me on this journey of discovery. Ask those who don’t share your privilege to tell you what they see. It may not have escaped your attention that whether we are talking about Trayvon Martin, Tamir Rice, Michael Brown, what whites see and what blacks see are not the same thing. There is a reason for that. Privilege comes at a price — and the price is the loss of a vision that admits facts that make accepting the privilege uncomfortable.

Therefore, I extend an invitation to a seeing that engenders the kind of discomfort with privilege that creates the space necessary for real justice to emerge. Don’t worry about carrying the burden of solving this pervasive injustice: for good reason, you and I won’t be entrusted with that work. But only when we see what others are more than happy to show us about ourselves will we be open then to hearing what they have to teach us about what will be required for true equality to emerge.

The acceptance of this invitation, and the resulting years of work it will take us all to open our eyes to that we have been conditioned to ignore for the sake of our privilege, is the first step in the proverbial journey of a thousand miles. White men in America, I invite you to walk this road with me.

Reverend Dr. John C. Dorhauer is the President of the United Church of Christ, author of two books, Doctorate in White Privilege, Shalom Award recipient for peace commitments | Follow Rev. Dr. John C. Dorhauer on Twitter

John grew up Roman Catholic, and spent eight years studying for the priesthood before choosing another pathway. He met and married Mimi, and a few years later attended Eden Seminary and getting ordained into the United Church of Christ. He served two churches in outstate Missouri for 15 years. From there, he served as Associate Conference Minister on staff in Missouri, and then seven years as Conference Minister for the United Church of Christ in the Southwest.

In June of 2015, he was elected to serve as General Minister and President of the United Church of Christ. He is the author of two books, “Steeplejacking: How the Christian Right Is Hijacking Mainstream Religion:;” and “Beyond Resistance: The Institutional Church Meets the Postmodern World.” Dr. John C. Dorhauer is the recipient of Eden Seminary’s Shalom Award, given by the student body for a lifetime commitment to peace and justice. He has a Doctoral degree in White Privilege studies, with a focus on how white privilege affects the church. Father of three and grandfather of one, married to Mimi now for 31 years, John finds much joy and pride in and with his family. He is an avid biker and baseball fan.

This piece was reprinted by EmpathyEducates with permission or license. We thank the Author, Reverend Dr. John C. Dorhauer for his kindness, compassion, for his journey, and for encouraging each of us to see.



  1. Ryan Schwab August 25, 2015 at 4:50 AM - Reply

    Dearest ignorant author,

    Being white doesn’t afford the luxuries you describe. I’ve been through all of that and worse. If anything the black men of America have been given privileges far beyond any that any white person has every had. One glaring example is the standards of scholarships and financial aid afforded BY RACE. That in and of itself is racist, is it not? A Nation of equality? Bah. That’s a bunch of bullshit. I drive an $800 car, my wife a $2500 car.. we’ve both been working since our teen years and yet we still cannot manage a savings. We aren’t given much needed EBT benefits BECAUSE of the color of our skin. If there is any injustice it is that the powers that be have given privileges based on skin color and nationality. Brainwashed fool. The media has tricked just about every white, black, brown and whatever child into a ridiculous race war meant to DIVIDE us. You think this is about white vs. black and vice versa? That’s a load of shit. Rich white men detest poor white men just as much as any other poor person. The same with rich black men. You think Kanye would give me a more than 5 minutes of his time? How about you? You think he’d care to sit around and talk to you for five minutes? This is a CLASS problem. Not a race problem. STOP ADDING TO THE FUCKING PROBLEM EVERYONE.



    • empathy August 26, 2015 at 1:22 PM - Reply

      Dear Ryan Schwab…

      I marvel and think of our filters. “Ignorant” is also a fascinating word. To publicly state that someone is “uninformed” or “badly informed” perhaps is a reflection of the reality that perspectives differ? We can never know what is true for another or why. We can only listen. I think it vital to open our minds and consider what is beyond what we believe, or our experiences. I offer some statistics as well as other veracities.

      Study: Black man and white felon – same chances for hire – Anderson Cooper 360 – CNN.com Blogs

      Incarceration gap widens between whites and blacks Black men were more than six times as likely as white men in 2010 to be incarcerated in federal and state prisons, and local jails.

      The Colorblind Bind: Race or Class? The Future of Affirmative Action on the College Campus
      Focusing college-student recruitment on poor neighborhoods can overlook middle-class African Americans entitled to affirmative action.

      Deadly Force in Black and White Black White and Red All Over
      Who Gets Killed?
      The finding that young black men are 21 times as likely as their white peers to be killed by police is drawn from reports filed for the years 2010 to 2012, the three most recent years for which FBI numbers are available.

      A Colorblind Constitution: What Abigail Fisher’s Affirmative Action Case Is Really About A Even among those students, Fisher did not particularly stand out

      How Segregation Plays Out In America Today, as told through #MichaelBrown’s School District in St. Louis School Segregation, the Continuing Tragedy of Ferguson County
      Michael Brown beat the odds by graduating from high school before his death — odds that remain stacked against black students in St. Louis and the rest of the country.

      The Black and White of Education in Chicago’s Public Schools Class, Charters & Chaos

      I’m Black, My Brother’s White … and He’s a Cop Who Shot a Black Man on Duty My white brother loved black people more than I did when we were growing up. As a black interracial child of the south – one who lived in a homogenous white town – I struggled with my own blackness. I struggled even more with loving that blackness. But my brother, Mitch, didn’t. He loved me unapologetically. He loved me loudly.

      Black is the New Black: White Privilege and White Fragility ‘For white fragility is the other side of the white privilege coin.’
      In 1900, W. E. B. Du Bois declared that “the problem of the 20th century” would be “the problem of the color line.” His prediction is just as true for our 21st century. Black men and women in contemporary America are judged not by the content of their character, but by the color of their skin. And for black Americans, such judgment is not merely hurtful or offensive. It is often fatal.

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